Kindness kindles a kerfuffle…

Silence is something I tend towards, but very often empathy is my driving factor towards trying to speak to others. So it’s rather painful for me when this backfires heartily and my empathy is instead interpreted as condescension. I don’t know how to avoid this, and I’m too socially inept to know how to navigate…

Flu-Feelings VRS Depression

There’s more than one type of weariness, and I’ve endured a variety of types of it. For the moment the kind I’m experiencing comes with a flu, but I have been thinking about the tired I felt with depression. When I’m tired I act depressed, that is my behaviour becomes similar to depression behaviour. Perhaps…

Being Discerning Rather Than “Judgmental”

Word-wise, and without additional context, people often don’t seem to make a distinction between passing judgment, and making assumptions. Using judgment colloquially there is very little difference, however, I think a distinction should be made between them. If we encourage people “not to judge” that should not be synonymous with “don’t assess”. Assessing is how…

Coffee I love you, but Stahp.

Dear Coffee, We’ve always had a bit of a rough relationship, you were often too bitter for me, but I sometimes sought you out for an odd secondary trait you possessed as a flavour, which seemed mildly enjoyable past the fact you were a tart and biting sort. I hated the smell of you, that…

The assailable Greysexual

Today I want to write about identity, and how expressing it can be impeded by stereotypes. Specifically I am writing this post for The August Carnival of Aces, on the topic of “The Unassailable Asexual”. (If you don’t know what an asexual is click here. Ace is another term for asexual. FYI people who regularly…

Actions ≠ Self – The river we are.

I was having a comment exchange with a fellow wordpress blogger, and I came decidedly to a conclusion while writing a comment back to her. “It is important to remember that our actions are not each individually reflective of us as a whole, but the other way round, we as a whole person reflect on…