Yesterday I bought two outdoor-thermometers to settle a minor dispute between myself and my husband.
It was a beautiful, hot (for here), sunny day, but with a nice breeze, and he wanted to keep the windows closed. I wanted them open.
We started out with two different sources of information, can’t be helped we learn from difference places.
So, I have read plenty about the science of greenhouses, and had always thought that allowing light through windows and not having them open, would result in that condition.
My husband had read science about heat transfer, which suggest that keeping the windows closed can keep a cool house temperature regulated due to keeping the air as a mostly closed system, like a thermos but with windows.
So we both agreed that keeping shades drawn on the windows was a good idea, but I’m not sure that keeping them closed is such a wise choice.
If a house is heating up due to secondary factors (absorption of heat through the roof/walls/windows if poorly insulated) then keeping it a mostly closed system is impossible, and not having moving air would be more detrimental than helpful.
Of course, my husband pointed out that there is reason to believe that based on insulation in the floor and walls of our house (apartment) may be pretty okay, sound suppression is good here. However that’s for the floor and inner wall, as I pointed out it might be cruddy in the roof and outer wall section since in the winter it gets quite cool easily, and for shedding or keeping heat those areas are more important.
Ergo, we both had points, but clearly needed more data.
Thus the thermometers.
Both are the same model, one for the outside, one for the inside, and we’ll compare the temperatures. If they are often reading the same, we can have it either way and it won’t matter.
If one reads hotter than the other, we’ll know which way to keep things.
We both acknowledge that it may vary based on the day, it also may vary based on the time of day (In fact I’m sure it will.) however, either way it means we have a focus and data to discuss. So instead of being in a deadlock of having differing opinions, we can make informed choices based on testing and checking solid information.
Sometimes all you need is a little science.
(Laymen science, but gathering data and testing it is science none the less.)
Fact checking and solid data collection can fix a surprising amount of disagreements. It’s something my brothers and I have always done, but incorporating it into disputes with my husband has provided a good middle ground where both of us can know it’s not emotional bias guiding the others stance.
Differing opinions on the abstract or social issues are an exception to this, some things are more about emotional swaying and would have to be resolved with emotional appeals or sometimes logical propositions if one can be made.
So there will still be some disputes which can’t be easily resolved… But if we “science” most of the things, they are few and far in between.
This has been working quite okay for us. 🙂
So far, in this particular case, we’ve kept the windows closed all day, and the temperature has been the same inside and out, so we know we are able to chose to have it either way, and it doesn’t have to irritate the other. No need for fighting if we both know it makes no difference. Tomorrow maybe we’ll have them open all day and see if there is a difference then.
Probably we’ll repeat this process several times, (Having a larger sample size often yield more accurate results. ;D ) but throughout there’ll be no more need for argument, only discussion.
That makes me happy, makes us both happy in fact.
How do you solve your disputes?
Do you think this would work for you with your family or spouse?