It’s come to my attention that when I’m stressed out I’m even less likely to have fun.
That sounds weird.
Okay, what I mean is, when I’m stressed out I don’t feel like doing the activities that allow me to have fun, and I also don’t set aside time to do those things.
As you can imagine that makes me even more stressed out.
If you’re not having fun, and you’re not trying to have fun, are you likely to feel any better? Or are you likely to continue feeling super stressed with no pressure release valve.
Probably that last one.
So I’ve decided I need to force myself to have fun… Or at least force myself to set aside time to have fun. Or at least think about setting aside time, so that I can force myself have fun. Or at least talk about, thinking about, setting aside time, so they’ll I’ll remember and I can eventually force myself t have fun.
That makes sense right? Can you even force yourself to have fun? I don’t know.
I realize it sounds absurd, and most people would wonder if I was being satirical.
What kind of life can I possibly be leading having fun is a difficult task I have to plan for?
Really though, it’s not so different from other people. It’s just what’s causing the hold up that’s different.
For me it’s my own internal emotions. For someone with children, maybe their kid(s) require enough of their time that they don’t get to really do something for themselves often?
Or someone who working full time, or who works overtime, but feels tired after work? Maybe the weekend ends up reserved for chores only?
It’s possible that most people would be better off if they actually tried to schedule themselves into having fun.
It’s necessary for me, but it might still be beneficial to others.
This leads me to think that needing to schedule fun is nothing which should inspire snickers. (Unless you mean that you’re inspired to giving out free chocolate, because that’s totally allowed.)
So I’ve already been working on this, but decided I need to make a more plans for having fun, take things one step at a time, hopefully jumping the inactive steps straight to fun.
I even wrote the steps, look!
Step one, find fun things I usually like.
Step two, decide a time which would be good to do those things.
Step three, ???
Step four, have fun.
Or something like that. 😉
In more seriousness, as I said I’ve already been working on this for a while. I’ve been reading more regularly and have still got a once a month table top RPG thing with friends, but I decided I needed more fun things at home, so I started playing video games again, but with my husband so I have someone relying on me. That way I can’t just get distracted by…Oh, I dunno, how about some mundane examples that float through my head freely and often: Fussing about how I don’t know what to make for dinner, or needing to do the vacuuming but it’s too late, or fretting about the laundry needing to be done, or whatever else I stress and grump over fruitlessly.
I’ve found it hard to ‘zone in’ and game without thinking about other stresses, which is what reminded me that I actually do have to plan, and through planning make sure I do this often.
On the bright side playing with someone else helps, because I can’t give up. Clearly I can’t abandon my husband to the wilds of the game, he needs me to help him slay the rock beast at the cross-roads don’tchaknow.
I don’t think I should stop at just one or two fun things. I’ll get bored if things are too repetitive, I need options! More than that I need to ensure I’m not just stressing, and the best way to slow that down is distract myself and have fun instead, it’s a matter of self-care.
So I’m gonna schedule myself some fun. Maybe you should consider doing so too?
Questions for those who like them: What are your favourite fun activities? Any suggestions for fun activities at home?
(Best for the agoraphobic with the homebody husband to have as many at home options as possible methinks, I’ll branch out slowly.)